I OVERstand

My kids OVERstand
My kids OVERstand

Have you ever found yourself...



Over- emphasizing?






Me too.

Especially when I am in a "teaching moment" with my kids.

You know those moments when you just can't waitto share your little morsel of wisdom...or warning...or worry? 

I can get so darned single focused in my desire to help that sometimes a simple moment of sharing is unwittingly sacrificed.

Fortunately, life has a way of generously providing umpteen opportunities for its ownlittle "teaching moments."

Needless to say, I had one last week with my eldest daughter who is away at college.

She messaged to say that there are paid internships for juniors at a particular TV show she covets in NYC.

Well...say no more.

That was my cue to go to town on all the ways she could make use of and prepare for this opportunity.

I was on a roll.  

My fingers could barely keep up with my thoughts as I texted one suggestion after another.

I was excited by the possibility and wanted to make sure I was doing all I could to help smooth the path toward her goal.


she typed these words to me...

"Mom, is it possible for me to just tell you something cool without you turning it into a new task?"


Time to back up the truck!!

"Um...sure honey. I just got excited and wanted to share what I know about this..."

And then she typed the magic words that succinctly and elegantly make their point whilst also putting a smile on my face:

"I OVERstand, Mom."

"I OVERstand."

That's code for...I got it Mom...


saying too much...

explaining too much...

doing too much... 

expecting too much.

The 'too much' is what ruins the simplicity of the moment... 

the connection of the moment...

the magic of the moment.

It changes the intimacy of pure sharing...

with no expectation or desire for help or advice or teaching, or warnings or worries...to one that may now be FULL of expectation.

And in the blink of an eye, a simple moment, a simple message and a simple exchange is lost or changed or shifted with no real intention to do so.

Thanks for the lesson, hun. 

I OVERstand.


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