Have you ever thought things were a certain way only to discover you were wrong? 

Of course you have. 

We all have. 

Sometimes that discovery is joyful. 

Sometimes it is painful. 

Sometimes you greet it with relief. 

Sometimes with angst. 

Why is it that when a discovery is joyful, we easily move forward with life, but when it is painful, we often get stuck? 

Stuck in the pain. 

Stuck in the ‘what if’s’ and the ‘why me’s’ and that never ending loop of “if it’s not one thing, it’s another.” 

And, more importantly, how do we get unstuck? 

Well, for starters; 

We see “it” for what “it”really is - not better, not worse. 

We stop arguing with reality. 

We stay in the present. 

We make peace with the past. 

And, we move through the pain so that we can once again discover our joy. 

Because the joy is always there…patiently waiting.

Lana Bastianutti