The Most Important Relationship

When I was a little girl, I used to walk home from school and along the way pick dandelions to give to my mother. I had no notion that a dandelion was considered an undesirable weed. I only knew that my small token was a symbol of the love and appreciation I felt for my Mom. And fortunately for me, my fistful of weeds was always graciously met with an equal amount of love and appreciation.

There is an energy to Love.

At times we can find ourselves IN-LOVE while at other times, not so much. And by IN-LOVE, I mean IN the energy of love.

When we are in such a state, what we are actually feeling is a reflection of how we’re relating to ourselves.

Have you ever noticed, for example, that when you’re feeling particularly insecure and unloving within yourself, it is near impossible to genuinely accept a compliment let alone a handful of carefully curated dandelions?

I know for me, it wouldn’t matter that the compliment and dandelions came from a place of love in the other person…it would only matter how I was relating to myself in that moment. And if I’m feeling insecure, I am feeling unworthy of both the compliment and the dandelions. And, as a result, I resist feeling any kind of love within myself.

What I forget in these moments is that the nature of Love IS to hold space even (and perhaps especially) for those things that my mind deems unlovable - especially those dark, messy, not enough bits that we all seem to secretly covet.

And so, when I am anchored in a perception of resistance to myself and the world around me, I suffer and am unable to feel the love that would otherwise flow.

It is not an easy thing to truly Love oneself - I mean ALL of oneself. But in the moments that we do, our perception of the world and of ourselves changes.

And from that perspective, there is no difference between a dandelion and a rose.