don't let me down

how to deal with disappointment

 Disappointment.

None of us like it.

None of us want it.

And yet...

one way or another,

at some point in our life,

we all experience it.

And

whether we admit it or not,

one way or another,

at some point in our life,

WE will be perceived as the cause of someone else's disappointment.

Yup.

It would seem that there is no running away from it.

Perhaps then, disappointment is simply part of the human experience.

If we take a closer look, however, we quickly realize that, at its foundation, disappointment relies heavily upon expectation...or rather thwarted expectation for it to come alive.

Of course!

Expectation.

We are rife with it in our lives. 

In fact, having expectations seems like the most natural thing in the world, non?

But why?

Well, it would seem that we may have a predisposition toward expectations.

You see,

many of our most fundamental and primary interactions with the world rely upon expectation in order that we may function.

For example,

we expect the laws of gravity to hold up (so to speak);

we expect our parasympathetic system to breathe and work our bodies without conscious thought;

and,

we expect our conscious mind and thoughts to control our physical movements.

These fundamental expectations create a world that appears to be predictable, reliable and within our control.

Perhaps then, it is no surprise that we innocently assume the 'laws' of expectation extend also to every other facet of our lives.

Except they don't.

You see,

we can't control the actions or inactions of other people

we can't control the worldview of other people

we can't control the thoughts or beliefs or perceptions of other people.

Nor can we control

acts of God

or

coincidences

or

dumb luck

or

blind luck

or even

good luck.

And yet...we try...

we try so very very hard to control and account for ALL OF IT.

So, 

what is there to do with disappointment?

Perhaps we begin with the basics.

We begin by recognizing that

disappointment is simply a feeling

produced by thought;

a thought based on thwarted expectation.

AND

we acknowledge that

the longer we focus on a thought -

one that we are choosing to believe - 

the longer we experience the associated feeling.

DID YOU CATCH THAT?

We have a choice.

Choice is where the magic happens.

Choice is where freedom lives.

Choice is within our control.

Always.

So,

perhaps, in recognizing the role of thought and feeling and focus,

we can identify and isolate the thought(s) creating the feeling, 

and, in so doing, consciously choose where we wish to place our attention.

In recognizing the affects of thought on our state of mind and our state of feeling, we can return the flow of thought, so that

perhaps,

just perhaps,

we find grace in our disappointments,

or even

freedom from our disappointments.

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